HER: Can we find love with an operating system?

by midlifecrisisqueen on January 11, 2014

Her PosterOK, so this is a strange idea.  In the future, could you find perfect love with a sensitive, intuitive operating system, one with a version of personal consciousness?  Could love be better with a machine, built to deal with all human idiosyncrasies?  Could the machine offer a relationship superior to real life?

If this idea fascinates you, go see the new sci- fi dramedy romance “Her.”

I did yesterday.  I couldn’t wait to see how writer, producer, director Spike Jonze would work with this unusual theme.  And I wasn’t disappointed, only a little confused.

Joaquin Phoenix plays the main character, Theodore Twombly, a lonely, introverted man who writes personal love letters for people with difficulties expressing their feelings.  Theodore is not dealing well with his divorce, so he decides to try something new, a relationship with a friendly, supportive new OS system named Samantha, a service that essentially lives your life for you, so you don’t have to be bothered.

Samantha works a bit like having a therapist in your head full-time.  She helps Theodore work through his feelings about love, divorce and our natural need and desire to connect with others.

This film makes one wonder, what is a relationship built on?  Do you need an actual, warm, soft, human presence to be in relationship?  Or will a machine be built in the future that is more reliably sensitive to our ever- changing human emotions?

This new film offers us so much to think about.  That’s what I like about it.

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

Tabor January 11, 2014 at 11:18 am

Since you can hire grandparents and buy artificial pets in Japan, I am sure this could be a reality in the future.

Anne @MidlifeBlvd January 11, 2014 at 12:05 pm

What did you think of the ending? It feels a little deus ex machina to me.

b January 11, 2014 at 1:41 pm

I like the sound of this one…thanks.


midlifecrisisqueen January 11, 2014 at 1:47 pm

I liked the ending, the way it made them and us question our dependency on machines for our “human” connections. It isn’t so different than the way we are today, with our “smart” phones, our blogs and “social” media! — LLC

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