Constantly question all of life’s certainties

by midlifecrisisqueen on August 27, 2013

Now you see me filmNow you see me… has anyone else seen this new film?

While watching it yesterday, I kept thinking to myself:  Everybody LOVES A SURPRISE… and this film is absolutely full of them!  Action packed and hard to keep up with, I found myself asking what is really happening here, a number of times.

It also caused me to think more deeply about how I see life differently than before I experienced my original midlife crisis back in 2004.  There is something about all of your “certainties” crumbling to dust before your eyes, that makes you begin to question everything else you thought you knew for sure.

I used to be super reality-oriented and analytical.  When I started in counseling in my mid-30s, my therapist observed that I generally saw the world more like a man, feeling responsible for controlling just about everything around me.  Imagine the stress involved in that scenario!

My new worldview is quite different and yet difficult to put into words.  Perhaps the best way to explain this is to say I now realize quite clearly how much I don’t control in my life.  I have found a need to trust in the universe, because I have noticed that I am certainly not running the show here!

Ever since the day I learned I would be losing my job soon, and then received a crystal clear message on my drive home that day, that still small voice within that said: “This will probably save your life!”  I regularly check into my intuition/inner wisdom when trying to decide anything important.  I also LISTEN now, instead of thinking I know better.

I have changed my mind and now it works better.  I do not allow myself to analyze things to death anymore, but instead use the good sense of my intuitive brain.

I challenge you to go see “Now You See Me” and then give some thought to everything you THINK you know for sure…

Don’t believe everything you think!

{ 5 comments… read them below or add one }

Caryn/The Mid Life Guru August 27, 2013 at 10:52 am

LOVED, LOVED, LOVED the movie (my favorite of the summer) and love how as I get older, I so much more appreciate seeing things in a different light. Not so intense. More open. Relishing the journey.

midlifecrisisqueen August 27, 2013 at 10:58 am

Caryn:
Yes, midlife has turned into a blessing for me too. I can finally relax and enjoy the ride!

Shannon Bradley-Colleary August 27, 2013 at 10:58 am

Needed this today as I’m totally outward focused, which generally leads to eating too much cheesecake.

midlifecrisisqueen August 27, 2013 at 11:04 am

Shannon:
What a fascinating correlation! That outward focus will bite you every time!

Lisa Froman August 27, 2013 at 3:00 pm

Yep, I saw the movie too. Thought it was cool!

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