1. I think aging gracefully is assisted by the “soft focus” our eyes provide us with when looking at the mirror. Not seeing the wrinkles and wattle makes them not factor into my self-perception.

    I fully agree with you that age has also brought more of a confidence in my own value. Experience can be a wonderful teacher.

  2. I agree that flexibility is key. I am a Type A, control freaky, OCD personality. However, life keeps throwing me curve balls, and my life plan has changed. Now I only make plans 6 months out. Trying to control everything was making me a nervous wreck. Flexibility preserves some measure of sanity.

  3. Laura Lee,
    I love your line, “–our worst breakdowns lead to our best breakthroughs” So true. This aging thing does bring so many physical changes, like you say, especially once we hit the late 40’s. I try to concentrate on and appreciate the positives, which are the increased confidence, wisdom and “soft focus” as Tammy says! Loved your post!

  4. Thank you for stopping by Tammy, Karen and Walker!
    Yes, Karen, I used to be the total control freak once upon a time.
    One of the things I most definitely had to give up with age is what I now call my “illusion of control.” When you stop and really think about it, there is so little that we really control about our lives.
    Now I appreciate everyday that anything could happen to any of us at any time.
    With that understanding firmly in place, what do you need to do today???

  5. I love how you reminded us of the many meanings of graceful that are way deeper than the superficial manner that first comes to mind. Flexibility is my favorite!

  6. ” I have learned to love fiercely this absolutely imperfect person that I am.” — I love that line! Beautifully sums up the idea of aging gracefully.

  7. I am trying, but I don’t think graceful is a good adjective for aging. How the hell can I do that…Especially because I would never believe I was graceful in the first place. Maybe I should explore ‘aging ruthlessly’ now that sparks an interest. Like grabbing life by horns and just enjoying its’ wild ride!

  8. OK Denise! How’s this? We keep this on our ‘frig as a constant reminder!
    Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely, in a well-preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, and shouting: “HOLY SHIT, WHAT A RIDE!”

  9. Shared on FB! My favorite part? “Why is it that our worst breakdowns lead to our best breakthroughs? Perhaps because it is only when our back is flat up against the wall, that we are forced to acknowledge our own strength of character and heightened resilience.” So, so true!

  10. You have it so right…my daughter repeated the old adage,”What doesn’t kill me makes me stronger.” You have added confident, flexible, smarter and more intuitive. Thank you.


  11. Love your ballerina image and the idea of being flexible. Impossible to BE graceful without flexibility.

    We are the trees that have weathered the storms, strong enough to do so, but still able to bend.

  12. Bev:
    I also love the ballerina image, probably because I have always been so inflexible in the body department. AH, but my mind is constantly flexing and bending, and changing, ever changing!

  13. There are only a few things I dislike about being my age…most have to do with body parts. Most everything else I like. I especially like not being blown over easily. Not a lot throws me any more and when I was younger so much would throw me off balance. I live in earthquake country. Here they build tall buildings so they sway in earthquakes so they don’t come crashing down. I like that image for aging. We sway gracefully!

  14. Aging and growing really are the same thing, aren’t they? The more we learn about the world and ourselves, the smarter and stronger we become. None of us like the harder lessons, but they are the ones that push us to grow the most.

  15. “Our worst breakdowns lead to our best breakthroughs,” your line says it all. As someone who has been knocked flat more than once, I agree totally. So great to be connected through GenFab.

  16. We are all imperfect, trying to find our way in this crazy world, and define ourselves in another way other than physical beauty. I love this age….we learn to be comfortable in our own skin. It look like you are doing just that.

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