by midlifecrisisqueen on March 4, 2013

I hope some of you were able to see this 13 minute section on CBS 60 Minutes last night.

Finally someone in the mainstream media had the guts to cover the topic of suicide.  Clay Hunt’s short life is such a sad story, but something we all need to become more aware of.

Ever since my brother took his own life, I have become ever more aware of our national avoidance of this topic.  It seems that as our suicide rate goes up, our tolerance of the subject goes down.  I know my parents were probably watching and relating too well to Clay’s devastated parents.  I was moved by his father’s statement, “You just never really consider your own child’s suicide.”

I was so moved by my brother John’s permanent disappearance, that I wrote my latest book: Find Your Reason to be Here: The Search for Meaning in Midlife. 

I wanted to research and consider all of the reasons why boomers are experiencing ever increasing rates of depression, substance abuse and suicide, so much more than their parents’ generation.  I wanted to study what previous psychologists have said about how midlife can change us, and fully understand this new rite of passage finally available to all of us.

I learned that yes, midlife is known to be a time of great personal struggle, but the outcomes can be worth the battle.  Embracing the real changes brought on by midlife, and negotiating those changes successfully can lead to a far happier aging process.

Here I try to share the many truths I have come to from experiencing my own midlife miracle, previously known as a crisis.  If you had asked me in mid-crisis if I would ever change partners and careers successfully, I would have said, “Are you kidding me?”  But I had to learn how to tell myself over and over again: HANG ON IT ALL CHANGES.  I didn’t want to miss what happened next, and what happened next has turned into the best part of my entire life!

We have friends who suffer from terrible PTSD from the Vietnam War.  They struggle but are still here fighting the good fight.  I admire them for that.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, a terrible and devastating waste of human potential.

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Anne (@notasupermom) March 4, 2013 at 1:44 pm

I’d missed this. I may try to watch it. It’s been 23 years since my brother killed himself, and sometimes I can handle media stories about suicide and sometimes I can’t.

Good article, LL!

midlifecrisisqueen March 4, 2013 at 2:03 pm

Watch Anne. They did a great job of showing the waste of young suicide and how it makes everyone feel so sad. Sorry to hear of your brother. — Laura

Ellen Dolgen March 4, 2013 at 3:51 pm

Thanks for sharing this story, Laura. You’re right – and suicide, unfortunately, touches so many people these days. Hopefully your books can give meaning and inspiration to those who so need it! Thanks again!

midlifecrisisqueen March 4, 2013 at 4:51 pm

Thanks for reading Ellen. I appreciate the work you do too, and know how essential estrogen has been in helping me mediate my own midlife challenges… — Laura

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