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As many of you already know, I went through the most devastating time in my life starting around age 39. First I married the wrong man, got divorced seven years later, and soon after lost my job and 25 year career at age 49. All of this I experienced basically alone, with no idea that what I was experiencing reflected normal, predictable midlife change.
Then I had a fascinating conversation with my father a few years back. He had observed that his children and others in the boomer generation were having a much more difficult time than he remembered at that stage of his own life.
He asked me to explain to him how what we boomers were experiencing as a generation in midlife was different than what he had experienced in his 40s and 50s.
Since I am a natural explorer of ideas through time, and a trained researcher I took up this challenge. I put all of my life force into learning what is different for our generation. How does our perspective change when we hit our 40s, and is this normal? This time in the middle of my life was quite difficult and painful, and yet somehow enlightening. Was I truly alone in this experience?
Seven years later, after reading all of the research and literature I could find on the emerging field of midlife psychology, I have learned so much I would like others to know. I would like to spare others the isolation and despair I experienced in my 40s. There is no need for those younger than me to go into midlife without this necessary information and a fuller understanding of this unique new stage of adult psychological development.
I learned that Carl Jung was one of the first psychologists to recognize how important this time in life could be, but only after experiencing it himself. Jung gathered great insights from his own midlife experiences, and other psychologists followed. I also learned that boomers are the first generation to fully experience this revolution in psychological development, because lifespans have increased greatly just in the past sixty years.
In fact, after much research, I now see my own difficult transition as a midlife awakening, one I’m glad I had the intelligence and luck to fully benefit from. I do not understand why anyone would want to face these important emotional changes without first understanding just how revealing and predictable they are.
My new book explains who the boomers are and how midlife is changing us, with a special emphasis on boomers and pre-boomers. Here I share how to enjoy and make the most of midife!
Learn what midlife means in our world today and what kinds of psychological changes are to be expected. Perhaps you are the parent of a boomer who seeks to understand your child better. There is so much deeper meaning to be found in this important time in life. Don’t miss out on this normal, natural transition into older adulthood.