We have a new taboo subject in this country. Sex is everywhere on the Internet and my colleagues assure me that any blog post about sex gets thousands of reads. But just mention the word “suicide” and everyone runs the other way.
Most revealing to me was the fact that even the Huffington Post,who has been publishing almost all of the articles I send them lately,completely ignored this one, not even bothering to send me a rejection notice. I found this response particularly interesting since I mentioned in my article, how those considering suicide feel no one cares, and how the whole subject seems to be completely taboo in the mainstream media today.
Unfortunately, those of us who have had family or friends kill themselves, don’t have this luxury. And I have a sneaking suspicion if more people were willing to confront this horrible loss of human potential instead of doing their best to ignore it, things might change.
I wondered what is it about midlife that is causing so much distress to so many? Why is the suicide rate increasing among those 40+? I wanted to explain to myself and then to everybody else exactly what this phenomena is all about. I also wanted to encourage those who feel stuck in midlife hell, that things often do get better and our perspective does change as we age.
Mostly I wanted to share the important news I discovered through my own research, that midlife is a unique new stage in adult psychological development, an amazing revolution in human history. Yes, you may experience quite a bit of confusion, chaos and even depression, but this is actually a natural, healthy rite of passage into older adulthood. Perspectives change and things do get better.
This is how I chose to respond to the apparent suicide of my brother John.
Conclusion: Action IS the greatest antidote to despair.