Essential research on what needs to happen in your twenties!

by midlifecrisisqueen on December 12, 2012

While researching my now completed manuscript (!!!) on what we boomers share psychologically and what we must do to improve our lives in midlife, I ran into a GREAT book that I want to share with all of my friends who have kids in their twenties.

The Defining Decade: Why your twenties matter — and how to make the most of them NOW, by Dr. Meg Jay is a MUST READ for any parent who has ever wondered about what needs to happen in your kid’s life in their twenties, to improve their chances of getting more of what they want later in life.

How does Dr. Jay know these things?  First of all she counsels kids in their twenties, and she has also put together an impressive combination of research showing everything we know thus far about what happens to kids in their twenties psychologically.

Here’s an interesting example: Dr. Jay’s research has shown that those who are unemployed for most of their twenties with little direction in life, often end up to be heavy drinkers or drug addicted and depressed in midlife.  She says even if you don’t know what you want to do, do something in the general field where you think you might want to end up.  She calls this gaining “identity capital.”

When I look back over my own life, most of what she says seem quite true.  And even though I have no kids of my own, I got a lot out of reading this book!  Ideas like when you don’t know what to do, ask for help from others in your network, because they may get a bit of “helper’s high” from offering you the needed assistance.

I can highly recommend this short, user-friendly book for understanding your kids in their twenties, or even the twenty-year-old inside of you, whatever age you are!

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Ginger Kay December 13, 2012 at 9:27 am

Thanks for the recommendation. I have two in their twenties, and will definitely look for this one.

midlifecrisisqueen December 13, 2012 at 9:28 am

I guarantee you will learn a lot, about your kids AND yourself! – LLC

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