Comments on: What CAN we change at midlife? http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2009/06/14/what-can-we-change-at-midlife/ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 13:28:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: midlifecrisisqueen http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2009/06/14/what-can-we-change-at-midlife/comment-page-1/#comment-608 midlifecrisisqueen Mon, 15 Jun 2009 19:32:28 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.com/?p=3950#comment-608 Hi Lia: Glad to hear you've been thinking about this! Please see my post from today to see the ways I feel I've been transformed by changing my husband, my career and my home. Perhaps our definition of 'transformed' is getting in the way of us knowing what that is! LLC Hi Lia:

Glad to hear you’ve been thinking about this! Please see my post from today to see the ways I feel I’ve been transformed by changing my husband, my career and my home. Perhaps our definition of ‘transformed’ is getting in the way of us knowing what that is!

LLC

]]> By: Lia http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2009/06/14/what-can-we-change-at-midlife/comment-page-1/#comment-607 Lia Mon, 15 Jun 2009 19:27:39 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.com/?p=3950#comment-607 I've been thinking about your question. It's a bit tough. I believe for the most part, we are who we are by midlife. But, I think that we can rub some of the rough edges off if we want to, assert ourselves in new ways, and make up our minds to transform to a degree. My easy-going husband has given me some guidance on not obsessing over things over which I have no control, and it has actually worked for me. I'm a bit more mellow in general, but not always. I moved from a small town to a large city and gained confidence that my job skills were just as good and valuable and transferable. More specifically what do you mean by internal transformation? I’ve been thinking about your question. It’s a bit tough. I believe for the most part, we are who we are by midlife. But, I think that we can rub some of the rough edges off if we want to, assert ourselves in new ways, and make up our minds to transform to a degree. My easy-going husband has given me some guidance on not obsessing over things over which I have no control, and it has actually worked for me. I’m a bit more mellow in general, but not always.

I moved from a small town to a large city and gained confidence that my job skills were just as good and valuable and transferable.

More specifically what do you mean by internal transformation?

]]> By: midlifecrisisqueen http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2009/06/14/what-can-we-change-at-midlife/comment-page-1/#comment-606 midlifecrisisqueen Mon, 15 Jun 2009 12:48:43 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.com/?p=3950#comment-606 Lia: I know some of us, like myself, felt determined to change our circumstances in midlife, but does that also change us in internal ways? Do external changes in our lives also lead to internal transformation? What do you think? Laura Lee Lia:
I know some of us, like myself, felt determined to change our circumstances in midlife, but does that also change us in internal ways? Do external changes in our lives also lead to internal transformation?

What do you think?
Laura Lee

]]> By: Lia http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2009/06/14/what-can-we-change-at-midlife/comment-page-1/#comment-605 Lia Mon, 15 Jun 2009 05:34:52 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.com/?p=3950#comment-605 I think circumstances often allow us or force us to change. Kids grow up and move away, we get divorced, lose our job or some other major life event happens to catapult us into change. I raised my children in a small town(rather suffocating for me) so they could be near their father after our divorce. When the youngest graduated from high school, I left for the big city and started a new life. I think circumstances often allow us or force us to change. Kids grow up and move away, we get divorced, lose our job or some other major life event happens to catapult us into change. I raised my children in a small town(rather suffocating for me) so they could be near their father after our divorce. When the youngest graduated from high school, I left for the big city and started a new life.

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