Comments on: A cautionary tale about online "instimacy" http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2009/06/07/social-media-and-intimacy/ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 13:28:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: midlifecrisisqueen http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2009/06/07/social-media-and-intimacy/comment-page-1/#comment-599 midlifecrisisqueen Mon, 15 Jun 2009 19:09:46 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.com/?p=3896#comment-599 HI Dina: I met Mike through Match.com too! But we only e-mailed twice before we met by phone and then met in person that same week. It's harder to make people up in your head when you have a real person in front of you, although some of us do a great job anyway! It's always useful to check in occasionally with the real person and see if they're what you imagined they were! Hee,hee! Laura Lee HI Dina:

I met Mike through Match.com too! But we only e-mailed twice before we met by phone and then met in person that same week.

It’s harder to make people up in your head when you have a real person in front of you, although some of us do a great job anyway! It’s always useful to check in occasionally with the real person and see if they’re what you imagined they were!

Hee,hee! Laura Lee

]]> By: @CuriousDina http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2009/06/07/social-media-and-intimacy/comment-page-1/#comment-600 @CuriousDina Mon, 15 Jun 2009 16:47:08 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.com/?p=3896#comment-600 Great new word! It sparked so many ideas I may just do a post about instimacy. One of the best things about the internet, which I know as a blogger you'd agree, is the ability to share so many different experiences. You know that I blog about marriage and boomers, but what you might not know is that I met my husband online. Like you I had some questionable experiences with online dating. All dating is a risk. Heck, people, in general are risky. But without risk, there is no gain. Or, growth for that matter. Having a long email and phone conversation with my DH before meeting him mitigated some of the risk. He answered all my carefully crafted questions with flying colors. I got to know him. More importantly, I knew me and what I needed in a relationship, just as you suggest, so I was looking for love with purpose, not out of need. Meeting him was a breeze. We've been together since our third date. We'll still working on being happily married for 50 years-hence the blog Love=Fun Dina Great new word! It sparked so many ideas I may just do a post about instimacy.

One of the best things about the internet, which I know as a blogger you’d agree, is the ability to share so many different experiences. You know that I blog about marriage and boomers, but what you might not know is that I met my husband online.

Like you I had some questionable experiences with online dating. All dating is a risk. Heck, people, in general are risky. But without risk, there is no gain. Or, growth for that matter.

Having a long email and phone conversation with my DH before meeting him mitigated some of the risk. He answered all my carefully crafted questions with flying colors. I got to know him. More importantly, I knew me and what I needed in a relationship, just as you suggest, so I was looking for love with purpose, not out of need. Meeting him was a breeze. We’ve been together since our third date.

We’ll still working on being happily married for 50 years-hence the blog

Love=Fun

Dina

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