Comments on: New Research on Women's Friendships and Longevity

By: Adelyn

Adelyn — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 23:03:05 +0000

I have not had a best friend since high school.I did not go to college, and I think that’s where lasting friendships are made. I married and lived in a pretty rural area while my children grew. I was active in PTA and all aspects of my children’s lives.I’m 57 years old and have worked in retail all my life. I have always been told that I have a friendly, warm personality. My son was married 5/15/09 and I helped plan the wedding. Now, I feel I have no purpose. I was laid off from my job in January. I am just so sad… I don’t have anyone to talk to about …anything!My husband is a wonderful person who is always working.That’s all…

By: Janice

Janice — Tue, 26 May 2009 23:07:48 +0000

When I read about women pushing their friend to the back burner when they get busy (especially if a new man comes along), I had to agree. You would think that women would recognize the importance of their friends, but in my experience often they don’t. When that happens, it makes me wonder what happened to that woman to cut her off from recognizing what’s good for her.

By: Laura Lee

Laura Lee — Tue, 26 May 2009 12:49:09 +0000

I have tried very hard to maintain my important friendships with women over the years, but it takes two to value the closeness we shared. My friends now mainly value their families and little else. It seems to be the standard in our culture.
You’re right, older women “seem to already have their friends” and not seek new ones.

LLC

By: Lia

Lia — Tue, 26 May 2009 06:48:43 +0000

I have a close friend from many years ago when we connected because we were expecting babies at the same time. There were times we lived in the same small town and didn’t really see each other for many months, but we always came back together. I moved to the “big” city 12 yrs ago, and though I have a lot of friends…women of all ages, men (straight and gay)…I haven’t made another friend that I would consider as close. Women my age seem already to have their friends and are busy with their lives.

By: Patricia Stoltey

Patricia Stoltey — Mon, 25 May 2009 23:10:47 +0000

After many years of experience with male and female friends, I found that my friendships with women have lasted longer and had greater value (measured in loyalty, honesty, and empathy) than my friendships with men. But that’s just me.

Patricia
http://patriciastoltey.blogspot.com