I found an interesting article about the many misunderstandings between men and women when it comes to sex. This information blew my mind! I copied it and showed it to Mike. Then we both realized there’s still a lot we don’t know about each others’ assumptions when it comes to sex.
Too bad we couldn’t have seen this article years ago!
The most common mistakes men make are:
1. Assuming that women want love more than sex, and that they don’t desire lusty sex. Solution? Take the time to talk honestly about what turns you on!
2. Men think women aren’t as “dirty” as they are. Recent studies show that women are more aroused by explicit fantasies than romantic ones!
3. Men cling to the myth that women orgasm through intercourse. Only 30% of women can climax from intercourse alone. Most need extra clitoral stimulation, either by hand, vibrator or oral sex.
4. For many women, foreplay is the main course and intercourse is a delicious side dish. Be specific when you talk about sex, and make it clear what you enjoy most.
5. Some men think women are impressed if they change positions lots during intercourse. Changing positions isn’t necessarily needed or required, and works best when you know each others’ preferences and can sense when the other needs more stimulation. Discuss!
6. Men tend to rush women to orgasm. Even experienced men underestimate how long women take to orgasm. The statistic most cited for oral sex–the fastest, most direct route for women–is 20 minutes. That gives you some idea. But this completely depends on how turned on they are before you even touch, and how much you’ve had to drink (two drinks delays orgasm, over four, forget it! You’re both numb!)
7. Men, stop thinking of oral sex or petting as paying your dues, and instead think of them as complete sex acts in themselves.
Tomorrow I’ll tell you about all the mistakes women make when it comes to sexual assumptions about men.
