http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2008/08/09/the-process-of-escaping-emotional-abuse/ Mon, 15 Mar 2010 23:50:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2008/08/09/the-process-of-escaping-emotional-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-268 midlifecrisisqueen Wed, 13 Aug 2008 17:11:57 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.wordpress.com/?p=614#comment-268 Thanks Brad, for sharing your experiences with us! Yes, sometimes it seems like it takes forever to change, but it's sooooooo worth it! Thanks Brad, for sharing your experiences with us!
Yes, sometimes it seems like it takes forever to change, but it’s sooooooo worth it!

]]> http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2008/08/09/the-process-of-escaping-emotional-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-267 smilin' brad Wed, 13 Aug 2008 15:46:05 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.wordpress.com/?p=614#comment-267 Accepting the death of my dreams and escaping the insidous effects of emotional abuse has been the greatest challenge of my divorce. I also stayed in close proximity to my ex (we have two children) and my family (the source of much of my confusion) for years after and had great diffculty separating myself from all the ongoing drama. Once the kids were off to university I packed it in and moved 2,000 mile away to start afresh. I now understand my expectations were the expectations of my family, not mine alone and that I subjected myself to the abuse in an attempt to satisfy those expectations. I have developed a far clearer understanding of myself and my values and have established stronger (though flexible) boundries to support those values. I found my own strength and have the sense of self that allows me to open up to others again. This process has taken all of 10 years to complete but I now feel open to Life again! Hang in there, it gets better! It's only temporary. Life is temporary! Brad Accepting the death of my dreams and escaping the insidous effects of emotional abuse has been the greatest challenge of my divorce. I also stayed in close proximity to my ex (we have two children) and my family (the source of much of my confusion) for years after and had great diffculty separating myself from all the ongoing drama. Once the kids were off to university I packed it in and moved 2,000 mile away to start afresh. I now understand my expectations were the expectations of my family, not mine alone and that I subjected myself to the abuse in an attempt to satisfy those expectations. I have developed a far clearer understanding of myself and my values and have established stronger (though flexible) boundries to support those values. I found my own strength and have the sense of self that allows me to open up to others again. This process has taken all of 10 years to complete but I now feel open to Life again!
Hang in there, it gets better! It’s only temporary. Life is temporary!
Brad

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