http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2008/08/09/the-process-of-escaping-emotional-abuse/ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 13:28:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2008/08/09/the-process-of-escaping-emotional-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-2639 What I know for sure about marriage | How to believe in love again: Tue, 03 May 2011 15:22:32 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.wordpress.com/?p=614#comment-2639 [...] Luckily I did get out of that marriage, but with my self-esteem badly damaged.   For a few years afterward I chastised myself for staying in such a negative relationship.   In other words negativity on top of negativity!  Here’s a post about the process of escaping emotional abuse. [...] [...] Luckily I did get out of that marriage, but with my self-esteem badly damaged.   For a few years afterward I chastised myself for staying in such a negative relationship.   In other words negativity on top of negativity!  Here’s a post about the process of escaping emotional abuse. [...]

]]> http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2008/08/09/the-process-of-escaping-emotional-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-2635 Are you ready for love? | How to believe in love again: Sun, 01 May 2011 14:57:41 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.wordpress.com/?p=614#comment-2635 [...] If you cannot maintain a fairly high level of self-respect, you will too easily be attracted to those who treat you badly, and once you are stuck in a relationship where your partner does not respect you, it may feel impossible to get out. [...] [...] If you cannot maintain a fairly high level of self-respect, you will too easily be attracted to those who treat you badly, and once you are stuck in a relationship where your partner does not respect you, it may feel impossible to get out. [...]

]]> http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2008/08/09/the-process-of-escaping-emotional-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-1499 crista Sat, 05 Jun 2010 21:53:24 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.wordpress.com/?p=614#comment-1499 I did escape once, but fell back into it. I feel there is no way out when I have no helpful resource like a job, my own place, and friends/family nearby to be supportive. I feel so alone. I did escape once, but fell back into it. I feel there is no way out when I have no helpful resource like a job, my own place, and friends/family nearby to be supportive. I feel so alone.

]]> http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2008/08/09/the-process-of-escaping-emotional-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-268 midlifecrisisqueen Wed, 13 Aug 2008 17:11:57 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.wordpress.com/?p=614#comment-268 Thanks Brad, for sharing your experiences with us! Yes, sometimes it seems like it takes forever to change, but it's sooooooo worth it! Thanks Brad, for sharing your experiences with us!
Yes, sometimes it seems like it takes forever to change, but it’s sooooooo worth it!

]]> http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2008/08/09/the-process-of-escaping-emotional-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-267 smilin' brad Wed, 13 Aug 2008 15:46:05 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.wordpress.com/?p=614#comment-267 Accepting the death of my dreams and escaping the insidous effects of emotional abuse has been the greatest challenge of my divorce. I also stayed in close proximity to my ex (we have two children) and my family (the source of much of my confusion) for years after and had great diffculty separating myself from all the ongoing drama. Once the kids were off to university I packed it in and moved 2,000 mile away to start afresh. I now understand my expectations were the expectations of my family, not mine alone and that I subjected myself to the abuse in an attempt to satisfy those expectations. I have developed a far clearer understanding of myself and my values and have established stronger (though flexible) boundries to support those values. I found my own strength and have the sense of self that allows me to open up to others again. This process has taken all of 10 years to complete but I now feel open to Life again! Hang in there, it gets better! It's only temporary. Life is temporary! Brad Accepting the death of my dreams and escaping the insidous effects of emotional abuse has been the greatest challenge of my divorce. I also stayed in close proximity to my ex (we have two children) and my family (the source of much of my confusion) for years after and had great diffculty separating myself from all the ongoing drama. Once the kids were off to university I packed it in and moved 2,000 mile away to start afresh. I now understand my expectations were the expectations of my family, not mine alone and that I subjected myself to the abuse in an attempt to satisfy those expectations. I have developed a far clearer understanding of myself and my values and have established stronger (though flexible) boundries to support those values. I found my own strength and have the sense of self that allows me to open up to others again. This process has taken all of 10 years to complete but I now feel open to Life again!
Hang in there, it gets better! It’s only temporary. Life is temporary!
Brad

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