Comments on: Men, divorce, and dating http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2008/07/21/men-divorce-and-dating/ Wed, 08 Sep 2010 14:14:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Lucy http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2008/07/21/men-divorce-and-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-238 Lucy Tue, 15 Sep 2009 23:00:55 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.wordpress.com/?p=362#comment-238 Even in my younger days I hated dating. It hasn't gotten better. I've been divorced for many years. I've had a few long-term relationships. On the dating scene again for the last 3 years. Met someone I knew previously (obviously a plus), liked (another plus) but was going through a divorce which was ongoing for several years. I am attractive, intelligent and basically just want someone to share life with. Even at this point in life it seems too difficult. Now, "starting over" is huge. First you have to deal with the financial obligations of your family, the kids (even if they are almost adults), and then add to that the obligation of caring for an aging parent. Very little room left for anyone else and certainly less than a little energy. And yet, at the same time someone else may come along who doesn't even have the good qualities but all the baggage. It becomes horribly tiring and frustrating and I long for simple. Even in my younger days I hated dating. It hasn’t gotten better. I’ve been divorced for many years. I’ve had a few long-term relationships. On the dating scene again for the last 3 years. Met someone I knew previously (obviously a plus), liked (another plus) but was going through a divorce which was ongoing for several years. I am attractive, intelligent and basically just want someone to share life with. Even at this point in life it seems too difficult. Now, “starting over” is huge. First you have to deal with the financial obligations of your family, the kids (even if they are almost adults), and then add to that the obligation of caring for an aging parent. Very little room left for anyone else and certainly less than a little energy. And yet, at the same time someone else may come along who doesn’t even have the good qualities but all the baggage. It becomes horribly tiring and frustrating and I long for simple.

]]> By: smilin' brad http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2008/07/21/men-divorce-and-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-237 smilin' brad Wed, 23 Jul 2008 22:15:20 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.wordpress.com/?p=362#comment-237 I keep going back to the Intenet hoping to connect once again the way I did once 12 years ago (this was before web sites & all we have now). I met someone, we dated for several years and eventually separated as our Life's Path took us in different directions. We've sayed in touch ever since, through the highs and lows, and have been an emotional sounding board for each other. So, even though we've traveled separate paths, we have stayed connected at a true, heart felt level. We've both grown through the experience. Love Wins! Brad I keep going back to the Intenet hoping to connect once again the way I did once 12 years ago (this was before web sites & all we have now).
I met someone, we dated for several years and eventually separated as our Life’s Path took us in different directions.
We’ve sayed in touch ever since, through the highs and lows, and have been an emotional sounding board for each other.
So, even though we’ve traveled separate paths, we have stayed connected at a true, heart felt level. We’ve both grown through the experience.
Love Wins!
Brad

]]> By: midlifecrisisqueen http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2008/07/21/men-divorce-and-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-236 midlifecrisisqueen Wed, 23 Jul 2008 19:47:09 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.wordpress.com/?p=362#comment-236 "Dating is weird" pretty much says it all, doesn't it. Talk about a crap shoot...you pay your money and you take your chances. It can turn out marvelous or it can disappoint you just about every time! “Dating is weird” pretty much says it all, doesn’t it.

Talk about a crap shoot…you pay your money and you take your chances.
It can turn out marvelous or it can disappoint you just about every time!

]]> By: Dating is Weird http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2008/07/21/men-divorce-and-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-235 Dating is Weird Wed, 23 Jul 2008 18:26:19 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.wordpress.com/?p=362#comment-235 A friend and fellow blogger on datingisweird.com wrote a recent entry about dating in mid-life that was so unbelievably out there I didn't believe it at first. I was hoping that dating maybe got easier as I aged, but now I'm a bit fearful. But you gave good advice, "I always tried telling myself I might just make some new friends," which is probably the best attitude towards dating in general. Thanks for your well-written post! -All us datingisweird.com bloggers. A friend and fellow blogger on datingisweird.com wrote a recent entry about dating in mid-life that was so unbelievably out there I didn’t believe it at first. I was hoping that dating maybe got easier as I aged, but now I’m a bit fearful. But you gave good advice, “I always tried telling myself I might just make some new friends,” which is probably the best attitude towards dating in general.

Thanks for your well-written post!

-All us datingisweird.com bloggers.

]]> By: smilin' brad http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2008/07/21/men-divorce-and-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-234 smilin' brad Wed, 23 Jul 2008 00:42:55 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.wordpress.com/?p=362#comment-234 I'm trying this dating in my 50's thing and I find it extremely difficult. I passed through the normal stages of dating, marriage, kids, house in suburbia with a dog, career, etc. and at the end of it all, after the divorce, I was very unhappy with where I found myself, empty. I think I understand now that I seek a level of Spiritual Intimacy, that I can openly share with an other. Slim pickin's so far, but it only has to work right once to make it all worth while. I'm hoping! 9-) Brad I’m trying this dating in my 50’s thing and I find it extremely difficult.
I passed through the normal stages of dating, marriage, kids, house in suburbia with a dog, career, etc. and at the end of it all, after the divorce, I was very unhappy with where I found myself, empty.
I think I understand now that I seek a level of Spiritual Intimacy, that I can openly share with an other. Slim pickin’s so far, but it only has to work right once to make it all worth while.
I’m hoping! 9-)
Brad

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