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What an inspirational post.
I especially like this: “Decide what you must have before you die, to feel good about your life.”
Thanks BearNaked! I remember I had to get majorly scared, frustrated, and angry before I was willing to start changing things in my life! -The Queen
Stumbled onto your site…this post to be exact while doing as you put it, a google “midlife loser” search.
Thank you…it was just what I needed to hear.
Thank you! That’s exactly the reason why I write this blog.
The Queen
That’s about the most uplifting thing I’ve read in a while, very well said:)
Thank you Paul, I do what I can. Please consider my book Midlife Magic for more support in midlife.
-Laura Lee
Queenie! thanks for your article. i’ve been going through these emotions. developed a drinkin and smokin habit as a result of my workplace–which began sabotaging my down time and personal life. for 10 years, livin contract by contract, year by year…well its ending soon. and when it ends, first priority: get healthy; next: take a risk to realize a dream.
Good Luck going after what you really want Pat!
Wake up everyday and say: “What do I want to happen today?” and ask for EXACTLY what you want! You CAN change your life!
-Queenie!
It would be nice to turn this in to a meeting place for people who have no idea how to get started.
Hey SkinGirl! Tell me more about how that would work…
Laura Lee
I feel like such a loser. I really don’t like myself very much at all, but for some reason that is not enough to motivate me to change. I think that the feeling, my feelings are the result of an issue with my brain chemistry. I don’t really know how long ago I started feeling like this, but it has certainly been many-many years since I felt good about myself for more than a few minutes. I constantly seem to find ways to fail, i joke about the Redskins snatching defeat from the jaws of victory, but that is the way I feel about myself most of the time.
Sorry to hear you feel so bad. You might consider taking a peek at my new book. I wrote it to help! – Laura Lee
Dear Midlife Crisis Queen,
I believe I met your husband today, and sold him a gift for you. He told me about your website and it just stuck in my head, I absolutely LOVE what you are doing. Today a middle aged man totally dropped a bomb on me. I am going to recommend your book and your forum to him. You’re helping people beyond your arm’s reach! Bless your beautiful heart!
Love, The Midlife Crisis Princess
Dear Midlife Princess:
Thank you for those GREAT compliments! What did he get me???
It’s our 5th wedding anniversary! -Laura Lee
Help! I am a midlife loser! Lost my job almost 1 year ago. 55 years old. Divorced twice. No retirement money. About to lose my house. Dumped by toxic boyfriend 7 months ago, fell in love recently with a man who is still in love with his ex, does it get any worse?? Feeling suicidal. Drinking too much to stop the pain.
Mary:
Get help NOW! Check out any local suicide lines. Call someone. See if your county offers any free counseling services. Don’t do this to yourself! -Laura Lee
Hi Midlifecrisisqueen,
I am seriously lost. I’m 36 (soon to be 37) and I literally have no life. I left my job a year and a half ago (I had a good paying, fairly low stress job…but I left because I felt SO bad…I was the ONLY woman in my group NOT to have a baby or be pregnant)…I regret it now because since, I haven’t been able to find a job…ANY job. I have a MA and I can’t even get an interview half the time. I am so so so sad about the baby thing. My husband cannot give me a child, and we don’t want to adopt or use donor sperm. I feel like I will never be happy. I was never happy as a child, and was always “waiting” to go to college and make a happy life, and here I am…almost 37…no family, no job, totally unhappy…I isolate myself because all of my friends now have families and it just hurts too much to be around them. I’ve tried counseling and medication, but it hasn’t really helped. I don’t know what to do.
I feel like its too late for anything good to happen. I don’t even have a career and I can’t seem to get myself motivated. 