Warning signs of midlife crisis

I find it interesting to see how my viewers arrive at my blog, by reading the GOOGLE searches that have brought them here. One from this week was “warning signs if headed for midlife crisis.”

This I find entertaining because, what if you are headed for a midlife crisis? If you are, it is probably exactly what needs to happen now, and it could be a very good thing! It could be the best way for you to clarify what is not working in your life right now, and then make some important changes which will greatly improve the rest of your life. That’s my experience of midlife crisis and change.

It is not something to be avoided. It is something to be embraced! I know, none of us like to change things, especially difficult things like homes, husbands and haircolor. But sometimes things just need to change!

At the time I got divorced and my income was cut by 75%, I was very depressed. But it was also a wonderfully thought-provoking experience for me. I had the time and motivation to seriously consider for the first time what I needed to happen before I died. What was most important to my future, and how was I going to get it into my life?

I decided that for me, I needed to have more fun and meaning in my life. I wanted love and beauty there too. So I started first beautifying my own surroundings by updating my dumpy little house, and before I knew it, I had a lovely sunroom, I loved my house, and it had increased $20,000 in value! That can always cheer you up!

I also had to work through my deepest beliefs and feelings about love. Did I believe in love? Did I feel worthy of true love? What did I deserve? This took some real soul searching and even some indepth research…calling the past lover from 25 years previous! But I got her done and decided, yes, I was completely lovable and ready to be in love again. Then guess what happened??? (See Falling in Love at 49)

It horrifies me to think now about my life without all of these major changes. Crisis was inevitable and absolutely necessary for my life to change and improve. The time was right and I was ready to do it all differently. I was ready to become my true self and stop playing at being someone else. I was especially ready to stop playing the victim!

So there’s an important warning sign:

When you’re through playing the victim in your life and ready to go after everything that’s important to you now, you are ready to have a midlife crisis! SO GO FOR IT!!!