Comments on: Falling in Love at 49 http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/ Wed, 08 Sep 2010 14:14:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: midlifecrisisqueen http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/comment-page-1/#comment-882 midlifecrisisqueen Sun, 10 Jan 2010 15:32:39 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/#comment-882 GOOD FOR YOU MARY! YOU GO GIRL! You have exactly the right attitude to find someone perfect for you now, and you did it all for yourself.... Blessings, Laura Lee aka the Queen! GOOD FOR YOU MARY! YOU GO GIRL! You have exactly the right attitude to find someone perfect for you now, and you did it all for yourself….
Blessings,
Laura Lee aka the Queen!

]]> By: mary http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/comment-page-1/#comment-881 mary Sun, 10 Jan 2010 15:20:31 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/#comment-881 call it depression, call it anger, or bitterness-- in any description what you sadly lack is optimism and lacking optimism is a downward slide to emptiness. I too am 49 and have many of the same thoughts as you. I was married for 23 years to a serial adulterer and tried to work through that issue for many many years to no avail. My kids, family and friends are all repeatedly stunned to find out how my ex really behaves now that he is untethered from me. And, I too realize I am partially to blame for our failed marriage. I too have kissed lots of frogs and found myself pursuing the wrong things-- I am very attracted to "successful, attractive" men. However, I am very optimistic about my journey and evolution... those characteristics (successful and attractive) are becoming seconds to character, integrity and spirituality for myself and a partner. That is why I am very optimistic-- there is so much goodness in this world and people I meet that I am giddy thinking of it. Call me pollyanna-- there are worse things. So, Marie, I say try another outlook -- you choose to be happy; Who wants to be around a grump? That too has been part of my learning. All the best. call it depression, call it anger, or bitterness– in any description what you sadly lack is optimism and lacking optimism is a downward slide to emptiness. I too am 49 and have many of the same thoughts as you. I was married for 23 years to a serial adulterer and tried to work through that issue for many many years to no avail. My kids, family and friends are all repeatedly stunned to find out how my ex really behaves now that he is untethered from me. And, I too realize I am partially to blame for our failed marriage. I too have kissed lots of frogs and found myself pursuing the wrong things– I am very attracted to “successful, attractive” men. However, I am very optimistic about my journey and evolution… those characteristics (successful and attractive) are becoming seconds to character, integrity and spirituality for myself and a partner. That is why I am very optimistic– there is so much goodness in this world and people I meet that I am giddy thinking of it. Call me pollyanna– there are worse things. So, Marie, I say try another outlook — you choose to be happy; Who wants to be around a grump? That too has been part of my learning. All the best.

]]> By: midlifecrisisqueen http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/comment-page-1/#comment-70 midlifecrisisqueen Thu, 01 Oct 2009 23:32:19 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/#comment-70 That's actually words from a very old song. I think it's called "The Second Time Around." That’s actually words from a very old song. I think it’s called “The Second Time Around.”

]]> By: Futon Chair http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/comment-page-1/#comment-69 Futon Chair Wed, 30 Sep 2009 07:35:17 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/#comment-69 Interesting little poem in the beginning. Interesting little poem in the beginning.

]]> By: carol http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/comment-page-1/#comment-68 carol Thu, 19 Mar 2009 20:37:13 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/#comment-68 I enjoyed reading your blog. I met someone that I am seeing now - he's 51 I'm 48. There is definitely something between the souls as we get older and we both sense this ourselves. We have been seeing each other for three months now and every kiss is like our first kiss (this happened on Christmas - the best Christmas present I have ever received). We both think about each other 24-7. I'll pick up the phone to call and he's on the other end. I can see spending the rest of my life with him - it's for both of us "where have you been my whole life" only the thing with that is we had to live life and make mistakes before God allowed us to meet each other. We lived at the same apartment complex and knew each other casually for about a year before we got together but, in retrospect, I can see the destiny aspect and how we were drawn to each other. He always seemed special to me before I fell head over heels. Wonderful things can and do happen - we have to open our hearts and minds and close the door on all the hurts of the past. When we do that and we are not looking for love, it really does happen. I feel as if I am a teenager in love for the first time only with all the wisdom I have gleened through the years. I enjoyed reading your blog. I met someone that I am seeing now – he’s 51 I’m 48. There is definitely something between the souls as we get older and we both sense this ourselves. We have been seeing each other for three months now and every kiss is like our first kiss (this happened on Christmas – the best Christmas present I have ever received). We both think about each other 24-7. I’ll pick up the phone to call and he’s on the other end. I can see spending the rest of my life with him – it’s for both of us “where have you been my whole life” only the thing with that is we had to live life and make mistakes before God allowed us to meet each other. We lived at the same apartment complex and knew each other casually for about a year before we got together but, in retrospect, I can see the destiny aspect and how we were drawn to each other. He always seemed special to me before I fell head over heels. Wonderful things can and do happen – we have to open our hearts and minds and close the door on all the hurts of the past. When we do that and we are not looking for love, it really does happen. I feel as if I am a teenager in love for the first time only with all the wisdom I have gleened through the years.

]]> By: midlifecrisisqueen http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/comment-page-1/#comment-64 midlifecrisisqueen Fri, 01 Aug 2008 13:23:21 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/#comment-64 Ain't that the truth! That's why I write this blog!!! Ain’t that the truth! That’s why I write this blog!!!

]]> By: wyomingnna http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/comment-page-1/#comment-65 wyomingnna Tue, 29 Jul 2008 22:56:08 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/#comment-65 48 - My mom died. I looked at life. Decided that the platonic marriage I had was not what I wanted to model for my two daughters. Fell into and OLD love relationship. Don't do that. If someone flaked out on you several times before---it WILL happen again. But wait! Went to a friend's 30th high school reunion. Knew LOTS of people from earlier school years. Met a guy that I would never have hooked up with before. He was a jock and had been in the military. I was a hippie theater person (in my earlier years). We lived across the country from each other. We tentatively e-mailed, IMed, then finally telephoned. We spent months reading books together about relationships--what we wanted out of the rest of our lives. Sometime in there we figured out we had been in 2nd grade together. I'd had a crush on him in 2nd grade! I remembered him vividly because one day he had a pained expression on his face and I (being extremely shy at the time) had to get up the courage to tell the teacher that he had a razor blade up his nose. Well, years later.....I find out it was an ERASER! (Boys will be boys). We got a big laugh out of that one. Now we've had a long-distance relationship for FIVE years. We are waiting for our last two daughters (four between us) graduate from high school before we move to the same city. The reason I tell this story is because I believe that we are supposed to meet certain souls in our lifetime/s. My life changed instantly from one moment to the next at that reunion. Open your eyes. Look for the signs. Wonderful things can happen. 48 – My mom died. I looked at life. Decided that the platonic marriage I had was not what I wanted to model for my two daughters. Fell into and OLD love relationship. Don’t do that. If someone flaked out on you several times before—it WILL happen again. But wait! Went to a friend’s 30th high school reunion. Knew LOTS of people from earlier school years. Met a guy that I would never have hooked up with before. He was a jock and had been in the military. I was a hippie theater person (in my earlier years). We lived across the country from each other. We tentatively e-mailed, IMed, then finally telephoned. We spent months reading books together about relationships–what we wanted out of the rest of our lives. Sometime in there we figured out we had been in 2nd grade together. I’d had a crush on him in 2nd grade! I remembered him vividly because one day he had a pained expression on his face and I (being extremely shy at the time) had to get up the courage to tell the teacher that he had a razor blade up his nose. Well, years later…..I find out it was an ERASER! (Boys will be boys). We got a big laugh out of that one. Now we’ve had a long-distance relationship for FIVE years. We are waiting for our last two daughters (four between us) graduate from high school before we move to the same city. The reason I tell this story is because I believe that we are supposed to meet certain souls in our lifetime/s. My life changed instantly from one moment to the next at that reunion. Open your eyes. Look for the signs. Wonderful things can happen.

]]> By: midlifecrisisqueen http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/comment-page-1/#comment-67 midlifecrisisqueen Wed, 23 Jul 2008 11:51:14 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/#comment-67 Laura Lee here (aka The Queen) Good news! No frog kissing required! The clearer you are about what you deserve now, the more quickly you will find it. Self-respect and self-love are the key! You go girl! We all need good friends, so go meet some! Laura Lee Laura Lee here (aka The Queen)

Good news! No frog kissing required! The clearer you are about what you deserve now, the more quickly you will find it. Self-respect and self-love are the key!

You go girl! We all need good friends, so go meet some!

Laura Lee

]]> By: cantorballard http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/comment-page-1/#comment-66 cantorballard Wed, 23 Jul 2008 11:13:41 +0000 http://midlifecrisisqueen.com/2007/12/19/falling-in-love-at-49/#comment-66 Hey Marie, I know you wrote this blog entry ages ago, but I just stumbled across it, and I love your site. While I'm an intellectual, too, I much prefer reading about real people, and the topic resonates strongly in my life. I am an adventure queen, love life, have loved raising my 2 kids, and been single for 7 years. Almost frightfully single. I wanted to focus on my last years with my kids at home, and not have to juggle time, and now I just sent the last one to college (Thank goodness I started young, so I'm only 46) and am finally starting life over. The scary part is - I also have NO social network to even begin to reach out to for that purpose, so I'm really starting over from scratch. I am also a very soulful person, and while looks, profession, intelligence, and character all play roles in our selection criteria, I loved the factor you mentioned about how you and Mike process things the same way and at the same pace, and that you instantly knew you had one soul. I know it will be that way for me, too, but the concept of having to kiss those frogs before the prince comes along makes me a little skittish. I hate frogs. So - thanks for the encouragement. You're a real woman, living a real life. And Brad - you're a pretty smart guy, too. I wish my ex had your enlightenment. All the best, and MORE LOVE for EVERYONE! Debbi www.mypersonalcantor.com Hey Marie,
I know you wrote this blog entry ages ago, but I just stumbled across it, and I love your site. While I’m an intellectual, too, I much prefer reading about real people, and the topic resonates strongly in my life.

I am an adventure queen, love life, have loved raising my 2 kids, and been single for 7 years. Almost frightfully single. I wanted to focus on my last years with my kids at home, and not have to juggle time, and now I just sent the last one to college (Thank goodness I started young, so I’m only 46) and am finally starting life over. The scary part is – I also have NO social network to even begin to reach out to for that purpose, so I’m really starting over from scratch.

I am also a very soulful person, and while looks, profession, intelligence, and character all play roles in our selection criteria, I loved the factor you mentioned about how you and Mike process things the same way and at the same pace, and that you instantly knew you had one soul. I know it will be that way for me, too, but the concept of having to kiss those frogs before the prince comes along makes me a little skittish. I hate frogs.

So – thanks for the encouragement. You’re a real woman, living a real life. And Brad – you’re a pretty smart guy, too. I wish my ex had your enlightenment. All the best, and MORE LOVE for EVERYONE!
Debbi
http://www.mypersonalcantor.com

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