“Love is lovelier, the second time around. Just as wonderful, with both feet on the ground…“ — Sammy Cahn
And so it is. Falling in love later can be quite the challenge, but when it does happen, it feels just like a miracle!
To me it felt like winning the lottery, and in a way it was…
When I think back to all the reasons why Mike and I should not have met, it boggles my mind that we ever did.
Although we only lived ten miles apart, without the Internet we most certainly wouldn’t have met.
Our backgrounds were very different, and we shared no social networks. I was also getting plenty gun shy of meeting new men online. Why? Because of how the men were vaporizing after our first date. Yes, I was beginning to feel mighty hopeless!
Then there was the fact that we didn’t really match up on paper. I came from a background with an emphasis on academics, and Mike went to the Navy instead of college. His specialty is mechanics and electronics, mine is counseling, research and writing.
But what we did have in common turned out to be much more important!
Mike and I immediately found a camaraderie of spirit which I have never found in another human being. We both realized later that we had been seeking to connect with others in this way for most of our lives, but had somehow missed until the day we met.
From the very beginning our souls spoke to each other in a unique and unusual way, a spontaneous familiarity, a synchronicity of body, mind and heart. And even more amazing, we both realized and appreciated that fact immediately. No backing away from it, no denying it. We both decided to trust our inner wisdom and simply went with our feelings.
We spoke for ten hours on our first date! And took a short trip together less than two weeks after we met. Reminds me of that great line at the end of one of my all-time favorite romantic comedies:
“When you finally meet the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you want the rest of your life to begin as soon as possible!” - from ‘When Harry Met Sally.’