This year we are living in a small rental house, anxiously awaiting the completion of our new home in the foothills. Our house is so small there is definitely no room for a tree, and no chimney for the stockings.
What to do? Mike decided to decorate our metal tree sculpture with natural garland, candy canes and an angel on top!
I guess this photo will forever remind me of this crazy makeshift Christmas…
Then I started putting up the stockings… why not near the front door? What the heck!
Rasta put on his Christmas jacket, and now we’re all set!
I have moved over 25 times in my life, most times as a single person, and a few married.
Six months ago my husband Mike and I moved from metroland in northern Colorado, with over 200 people per square mile, to sparsely populated Huerfano County. Since moving I have noticed an interesting social phenomenon that I hadn’t ever really noticed before.
Most of the women I’ve met here seem to only socialize as a couple, and not separately. This is a whole new concept for me, and I have to say I’m not wild about it.
Having been single most of my adult life, I feel a strong desire to have a social life separate from my husband. After all, I am a unique and separate person from him, so why wouldn’t I have my own separate friendships?
He seems to have developed a few friendships without me, but all the women I’ve met here so far seem to only want to socialize with their husbands in tow. To this I say, really? What if our husbands didn’t get along? Would that mean we couldn’t be friends?
Why so traditional? I guess this never came up before because in the past my husband and I each made separate friendships through our work.
I find this “couples” approach to friendship stifling, limiting and down right uncomfortable.
I got to thinking yesterday, while spacing out on TV, if what is portrayed on the Christmas ads is normal, than I have to be the biggest freak alive!
First of all I have a very small family and we generally don’t spend any money at Christmas. I have never felt particularly ‘normal’ and generally I feel that’s a good thing, but I have to wonder, are these pictures I see on TV what’s really happening in this country?
I feel like an alien in my own culture! Christmas is about fond memories and great times with those I love.
I hope you are now living the life you feel proud of, and if not, you have the strength and integrity to start over again.
It takes courage to stop and take an honest look at your life, and even more to admit this life is not at all what you had hoped for.
Sometimes it takes a crisis to cause us to take the time to sit alone and look at the sum total of our existence here on earth. What do you have so far?
At these times it may help to ask yourself:
Is this what I’d hoped for? Is this my best effort?
If I died today would I be happy with my life?
Does this life give me joy?
Am I proud of what I’ve done so far?
If the answer is no to these questions, what could you begin doing today to move closer to your best life?
When I confronted myself ten years ago in mid-midlife crisis, I found I was not happy or proud of my accomplishments. I felt quite disappointed, because I had not yet found the courage inside to pursue my own version of my best life. I was still trying to please others and in that process, finding no satisfaction in myself.
Today I have the life I choose and now pursue my own goals. I no longer live by others’ rules.
I am finally on the path to becoming who I want to be.
Whenever I feel like donating to a cause, I always give to pet shelters and humane societies.
Why? Because animals have a lot fewer choices in their lives than we humans. Life just happens to them, and sometimes the results can be very sad indeed.
That is why I am working today in partnership with Element Associates to celebrate Shelter Pets Day!
Of all the pets in American homes, less than one third were adopted from a shelter or rescue. Each year approximately 3-4 million pets are adopted, but 2.7 million still lose their lives for lack of a home.
Seventeen million people will acquire a pet within the next year. The Shelter Pet Project, a collaborative effort between The Humane Society of the United States, Maddie’s Fund® and the Ad Council, hopes to encourage you to adopt shelter and rescue pets.
Please visit www.theshelterpetproject.org today, where you can search for a pet from a local shelter or rescue group, read adoption success stories and learn valuable information about pet adoption.