Here I am six years into my own marriage at age 50, and I know most of you have been married much longer.

What is the secret to keeping love alive?

How do you keep getting excited about your husband all over again?   How do you keep him excited about you, when half of the time you feel like there should be steam coming out of your ears?   Or your mood is swinging in ways that Tarzan would envy!   Not to mention hormonal changes with andropause and menopause that make romance much less likely to happen.

Should you simply give up on romance for this lifetime?

I say NO!   Just because most of your conversations center around the kids, getting the bills paid, or appliance repairs now, doesn’t mean romance has disappeared completely.   It just means that romance will require some effort on both of your parts.  You need to ask yourself:

“Do I still believe in the power of love to change my life?”

You are not disillusioned with love now, just with how routine your relationship has become over the years. Just because you have been married for years, doesn’t mean you don’t still have the same fears and intimacy issues you entered this relationship with. Is it worth it to you to work on yourself at this late date?   Could you still believe in love?

The most basic theme of my book: How to Believe in LOVE Again: Opening to Forgiveness, Trust and Your Own Inner Wisdom, is to help you realize that you have a choice.   You can make the decision to embark on your own journey back to self-love and self-acceptance.   For what is life without love?  Perhaps if you worked your way through my book WITH your life partner, the magic would return even better than before!

Married, recently divorced or single, self-love and self-respect is the source of all trust in others, closeness and true intimacy.

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